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Public
Speaking and Panic Attacks
It
is often observed that many people’s top ranking fear
is not death but having to speak in public. The joke
is that these people would rather be lying in the casket
at the funeral than giving the eulogy. Public speaking
for people who suffer from panic attacks or general
anxiety often becomes a major source of worry weeks
or even months before the speaking event is to occur.
These
speaking engagements do not necessarily have to be the
traditional “on a podium” events but can be as simple
as an office meeting where the individual is expected
to express an opinion or give verbal feedback. The fear
of public speaking and panic attacks in this case centers
on having an attack while speaking. The individual fears
being incapacitated by the anxiety and hence unable
to complete what he or she is saying. The person imagines
fleeing the spotlight and having to make all kinds of
excuses later for their undignified departure out the
office window….
This
differs slightly from the majority of people who fear
public speaking because their fear tends to revolve
around going blank while speaking or feeling uncomfortable
under the spotlight of their peers. The jitters or nerves
of speaking in public are of course a problem for this
group as well, but they are unfamiliar with that debilitating
threat which is the panic attack, as they most likely
have not experienced one before.
So
how should a person with an anxiety issue tackle public
speaking?
Stage one is accepting that all these bizarre and quite
frankly unnerving sensations are not going to go away
overnight. In fact, you are not even going to concern
yourself with getting rid of them for your next talk.
When they arrive during a speech/meeting, you are going
to approach them in a new manner. What we need to do
is build your confidence back to where it used to be
before any of these sensations ever occurred. This time
you will approach it in a unique, empowering manner,
allowing you to feel your confidence again. It is said
that most of the top speakers are riddled with anxiety
before speaking, but they somehow use this nervousness
to enhance their speech. I am going to show you exactly
how to do this, although I know that right now if you
suffer from public speaking and panic attacks you may
find it difficult to believe you can ever overcome it.
My
first point is this and it is important. The average
healthy person can experience an extreme array of anxiety
and very uncomfortable sensations while giving a speech
and is in no danger of ever losing control, or even
appearing slightly anxious to the audience. No matter
how tough it gets, you will always finish your piece,
even if at the outset it feels very uncomfortable to
go on. You will not become incapacitated in any way.
The
real breakthrough for if you suffer from public speaking
and panic attacks happens when you fully believe that
you are not in danger and that the sensations will pass.
“I
realize you (the anxiety) hold no threat over me.”
What
keeps a panic attack coming again and again is the fear
of the fear—the fear that the next one will really knock
your socks off and you feel you were lucky to have made
it past the last one unscathed. As they were so unnerving
and scary, it is your confidence that has been damaged
by previous anxiety episodes. Once you fully understand
you are not under any threat, then you can have a new
response to the anxiety as it arises while speaking.
Defeating
public speaking and panic attacks...
There
is always a turning point when a person moves from general
anxiety into a panic attack, and that happens with public
speaking when you think to yourself:
"I
won’t be able to handle this in front of these people."
That
split second of self-doubt leads to a rush of adrenaline,
and the extreme anxiety arrives in a wave like format.
If, however, when you feel the initial anxiety and you
react with confidence that this is not a threat to you,
you will move out of the anxiety rapidly. Using this
new approach is a powerful ally because it means it
is okay to feel scared and feel the anxiety when speaking–that
is fine; you are going to feel it and move with and
through the sensations in your body and out the other
side. Because he or she is feeling very anxious, often
before the talk has begun, that person may feel they
have already let themselves down. Now, you can relax
on that point. It is perfectly natural to feel the anxiety.
Take for example the worst of the sensations you have
ever experienced in this situation—be it general unease
to loss of breath. You will have an initial automatic
reaction that says:
“Danger–I’m
going to have an episode of anxiety here and I really
can’t afford that to happen.”
At
this point most people react to that idea and confirm
it must be true because of all of the unusual feelings
they are experiencing. This is where your thinking can
lead you down a train of thought that creates a cycle
of anxiety that produces a negative impact on your overall
presenting skills.
So
let that initial “oh dear, not now” thought pass by,
and follow it up immediately with the attitude of:
“There
you are–I’ve been wondering when you would arrive. I’ve
been expecting you to show up—by the way, I am not in
the least threatened by any of the strange sensations
you are creating—I am completely safe here.”
The
key to controlling your fear of public speaking and
panic attacks is that instead of pushing the emotional
energy and excitement down into your stomach, you are
moving out through it. Your body is in a slightly excited
state, exactly as it should be while giving a speech,
so release that energy in your self-expression. Push
it out through your presentation not down into your
stomach. You push it out by expressing yourself more
forcefully. In this way you turn the anxiety to your
advantage by using it to deliver a speech where you
come across more alive, energetic and in the present
moment. When you notice the anxiety drop as it does
when you willingly move into it. Fire a quick thought
off when you get a momentary break (as I am sure you
have between pieces), asking it for “more.” You want
more of its intense feelings as you are interested in
them and are absolutely not threatened by them.
It
seems like a lot of things to be thinking about while
talking to a group of people, but it is not really.
You’d be amazed how many different non-related thoughts
you can have while speaking. This approach is about
adopting a new attitude of confidence to what you might
have deemed a serious threat up until now. This tactic
will truly help you with fear of public speaking and
panic attacks you have associated with them.
If
your predominant fear of the speaking engagement is
driven by a feeling of being trapped, then I would suggest
factoring in some mental releases that can be prepared
before the event. For example, some meetings/speeches
allow for you to turn the attention back to the room
to get feedback etc. from the group.
If
possible, you might want to prepare such opportunities
in your own mind before the engagements. This is not
to say you have to ever use them, but people in this
situation often remark that just having small opportunities
where attention can be diverted for the briefest of
moments can make the task seem less daunting. It my
even be something as simple as having people introduce
themselves or opening the floor to questions. I realize
these diversions are not always possible and depend
on the situation, but anything you can factor in that
makes you feel less trapped or under the spotlight is
worth the effort and can help alleviate fear of public
speaking and panic attacks.
Learn more
http://www.panicportal.com
Joe
Barry is an international panic disorder coach. His
informative site on all issues related to panic and
anxiety attacks can be found here:
http://www.panicportal.com
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